Wednesday, February 9, 2011

It's Independence Day!

In my rear view mirror, my life is getting clearer . . .

I spend a great deal of time learning about life, thoughts, feelings, emotions, and actions - focusing on relationships with myself and others, dreams, and desires.  I LOVE people and take great pride in learning about them on a deeper level.  I am NOT a fan of superficial relationships and devote myself to learning about the depths of people and understanding what makes them 'tick'.  The most important person you'll ever get to know is yourself.

As I watched Oprah yesterday, twins Kellie and Kathie revealed their story of being raped by their father and brothers, chills ran down my spine.  What a horrific reality for these young girls.  The reality for these girls or what their family came to know as 'normalcy' frightens me!

I watch people work so hard to maintain the 'status quo' of their life and their relationships and often wonder, WHY?  Status quo is defined as:  the way things currently are; normal conditions.  I challenge you to take a look at your 'normal' and determine if how you function on a daily basis is truly working for you and the people around you.  So often I witness people loose themselves or those they care about, by sacrificing themselves, their spirit, their minds, their beliefs, minimizing their feelings and/or their thoughts all to maintain the 'status quo'.  I experience this as a tremendous loss.  Why?

Sincerely take a look at your relationships; with yourself, family, friends . . . . are you functioning in a positive manner that serves those involved??  Are your relationships functional or preceded by the letters DYS??  Dysfunction comes in many shapes and sizes.  Many labels to define it.  I believe . . . dysfunction - is anything that takes away from who you are or who you have the potential to become.

Sadly, I've experienced both inside and out, more than my fair share of dysfunctional relationships.  Relationships that required sacrificing ones self to maintain the 'status quo'.  What I've come to realize is that NO amount of 'the way things are' is worth sacrificing yourself, your dreams nor your desires.  The BIG ole world can be a bully some days - kind of a dog eat dog sceanario!  It frightens me to see greatness sacrificed due to  fear.  Personally I believe . . . its time to make some noise, take a stand, make a difference, ruffle some feathers, change the dance!  I challenge you to stand up for something you believe in OR make a change to something that is not working for you - in essence change the dance.

Speaking of dance . . . I love music and find these lyrics speak to my heart.  Today - It's Independence Day!  (Click below to listen and view video - be sure to watch till the end - that's when the dance is changed)

Lost Highway by Bon Jovi on YouTube

P.S. . . ilovemorgan (she hacked my post and I love her for it)

Friday, February 4, 2011

Power Overload

The paradigm has been shifting!  WOW!  To further explain; if I were a string of Christmas lights, I've simply been plugged into a power source with too high of voltage!  Ever notice how at times in your life, things 'miraculously' fall into place.  The missing piece of the puzzle is found.  The light bulb comes on.  You experience an 'aha'.  Physically, mentally, and emotionally, I've been on 'power overload'.

A wonderful friend sent me a note in the mail years ago which read: 

If you can Forgive the person you were, Accept the person you are, and Believe in the person you will become, You are headed for JOY!

Now, I've done a pile of personal development and truly thought I had worked through the above phrases and was headed for JOY!  Turns out . . . some more layers of the onion to be peeled.  It's been said that people come into your life for a season, a reason, or a lifetime.  Whatever the purpose, I am truly grateful to be surrounded my wonderful people.

Think of a paradigm shift as a change from one way of thinking to another. It's a revolution, a transformation, a sort of  metamorphosis.  It just does not happen, but rather it is driven by agents of change. 

I attribute my recent shifts to some amazing clients and neighbours in my office building.  At times, we may spend more time talking than working (shhhhhh . . . don't tell the boss).  Believe me, the time spent has been extremely influential.  A special thanks to my recent 'agents of change'.

Alice - you make me laugh, literally.  I admire your sense of humour, fashion, stickers, and honesty.
Bruce - the new kid on the block . . . always willing to share his wisdom, and resources.
Cindy - you remind me the importance of pursuing your dreams, in ALL aspects of life!
Heather - when I grow up, I want to be just like you!  Your understanding and compassion are invaluable.
Jen - always good for a chuckle and an honest straight up dose of 'reality'.
Lan - you continually remind me the importance of being 'true' to yourself.
M.T. - you three are my 'lifetime' and truly rock my world.
*&%$#* (name changed to protect identity) - thank you for ensuring that I Believe . . . in ME!

“Reason, Season, Lifetime” - Aleksandra Lachut

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life,
whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.