Monday, October 10, 2011

Oh, look . . . a squirrel!

As Thanksgiving weekend draws to a close I recalled the gratuity list in celebration of Thanksgiving that my kids and I put together last year.  Sadly, our time together this Thanksgiving weekend was limited.  As I sat at the keyboard, my thoughts fixed on a thankful post, I realized I hadn't posted anything since September 11th.  Oh my!  My thoughts rushed . . . where have I been, what have I done, what have I to be thankful for?

  Oh, look . . . a squirrel!

‎"A cloudy day is no match for a sunny disposition." - William Arthur Ward

I quickly realized, how busy we've been.  The last 6'ish weeks has been consumed with back to school, family, figure skating, coaching, shopping, travel, hockey tryouts, courses, volunteering, friends, and golf!  As I recalled the recent events my heart was warmed with thoughts of being . . . togetherness, love, and laughter!

Ahhh, happy thoughts!  Then I think of this past weekend and the happy thoughts fade away.  Oh, look . . . a squirrel!

Now this Thanksgiving weekend did not go exactly as planned with a great deal of disappointment for me and my kiddos.  With busy schedules and active lives, we've become very adaptable.  Every once in a while life is interrupted by, oh, look . . . a squirrel!

As I tackle these squirrels and thoughts around in my head, attempting to make sense of the weekends events, I take a wander through good ole facebook and find the following post:

Should you find yourself the victim of other peoples bitterness, ignorance, smallness, or insecurities, remember this, things could be much worse.  You could be one of them!

NOW, that hit the nail on the head!  I've figured it out!  So many dang squirrels I hope I can explain.  I Believe . . . that the root of all happiness is in the 'being' not in the 'doing' nor in the materialistic world.  What had happened over the Thanksgiving weekend is that my ability to 'be' had been kiboshed by the actions of another person.  Granted I allowed that to happen through my own frustration and contempt.  My family and I had became the victims of someone else's control, manipulation, bitterness, ignorance, smallness, and insecurities!  Wow, now the squirrels in my head were fighting, geesh! 

As I get the squirrels tamed down, I am able to focus on the intent of my post and that is giving 'Thanks'!  What I am truly thankful for is the ability to learn and grow . . . to do better and be better.  A better person, a better friend, a better mom!  I am thankful for the awareness and the understanding of how certain actions or circumstances can make you feel, think, and behave.  Thankful for the ability to move above and beyond the smallness of others.  Thankful to set an example for my kiddos through integrity.  Thankful for the many wonderful people who's paths I've crossed recently.  Thankful for the ability to learn new things (even first aid).  Thankful for 3 wonderful children.  Thankful for fabulous family and friends.  Thankful, thankful, thankful, thankful!!

I Believe . . . there are many squirrels that cross our paths.  Squirrels come in many disguises!  Are those squirrels a distraction in your life?  Are you able to stay focused on what is important to you?  What squirrels are you thankful for?

Sunday, September 11, 2011

. . . almost peed my pants!!

As a mom, I'm a little anal retentive on the oral hygiene!  After spending several thousands of dollars on 'straight' teeth I think it's important to look after them!  I can frequently be heard asking "Did you brush your teeth?" or chanting various other teeth brushing reminders as my kids walk out the door.

The other morning was a little different as the tooth brushing conversation had 'NOT' been initiated by me.  I could hear my oldest two children discussing (well, arguing, maybe fist a cuffing, and possible utterance of profanities) downstairs . . . . blah, blah, blah, 'stupid tooth brush', blah, blah, blah.  I thought . . . AHA, mom's advise is wearing off!  I head towards the front door enroute to schools and work and can hear my son ranting, he is extremelly annoyed and doesn't appear to be very happy with his sister . . . hmmmmm!  How can something so right, like brushing your teeth, go sooooo wrong?  They appear to be bent out of shape over a 'stupid' tooth brush!

So here's what happened . . . Morgan had apparently placed one of her tooth brushes in her brothers 'area' of their shared bathroom and he used it.  Basically no big deal, right??  Well turns out the tooth brush Tyson used, had been used by Morgan . . . to clean her shoes!!  YIKES!!  Well I did my best to refrain from gagging, it was all I could do to hold myself together.


T . . . why'd you put it with my stuff??

M . . . well, I didn't want the dog to get it!

T . . . ohhhhh, but it was okay for me to use it???

M . . . blah, blah, blah

T . . . STUPID tooth brush!

As Tyson and Morgan continue to bicker back and forth, Mikayla pipes up and says . . . "Is this show almost over?  Cuz we gotta get to school!" . . . and out the door she walks!  I was thankful for her jolt of energy and we all headed to the vehicle.  Rest assured these two continued to argue . . . for days!!!

The morale of the story . . . learn to laugh at your mistakes!!  I Believe . . . if you laugh at your mistakes, you'll never run out of things to laugh at!  Believe ME!

You don't have to brush all your teeth - just the ones you want to keep.  - Author Unknown

Monday, August 29, 2011

O Siem . . . we are all family!

Rest in Peace Marilyn Rose (Noskye) Pue
April 24, 1958  to August 21, 2011

Click To Listen: Susan Aglukark ~ O Siem

Sadly, this morning I attended a funeral service for my sister, my friend.  We first met in 1976, I was 7 and Marilyn was 18.  Through marriage Marilyn and I became step-foster sisters.  She quickly became an influential person in my world.  She introduced me to life with an older sibling and blessed our home with sweet little nieces.  She taught me how to iron, bake, craft, and smile.  Now ironing was a talent I didn't long possess, I was thankful for her patience and willingness to teach and share.  Marilyn became known as NoNo around our house and always wore the biggest of smiles!

As I sat at the service this morning, I quickly realized how different our lives had become . . . differences based on generation, experience, culture, and beliefs; and yet how similar our lives remained . . . based on family values and love.  As I listened to the music and the words spoken, I was reminded of a beautiful free spirit who touched the hearts of many.  I left the service very humbled and honored to have had the opportunity to share in Marilyn's life.

Dearest NoNo, you will be sadly missed . . . you have left behind a legacy with a beautiful family and memories galore!  I'm thankful for our paths having crossed and trust that we shall meet again.

A little reminder . . . always be kind, you never (I mean NEVER) know the impact you may have on some one's life.  Never underestimate the significance of a smile, a glance, an open door, a touch, a moment! 

I Believe . . . we are all family!

Love and death are the two great hinges on which all human sympathies turn. ~ B.R. Hayden

Friday, August 19, 2011

Night Shift?

The time, approximately 1:22 a.m.

As I sat at Tim Horton's waiting to pick Mikayla up after the Taylor Swift concert, I notice a vehicle pull up, whip a u-turn and park along the side street. As I'd had the privilege of a random check stop with the RCMP earlier in the evening, my first thought was that this vehicle was possibly a RCMP member wondering what I was doing in an empty parking lot at this hour.

Out of the car exits a dude who quickly pulls a hood over his head and strikes out across the parking lot carrying a . . . What is that?? Ah, a plastic bag. I thought; oh maybe night shift?? Night shift it was. He opens the door to the garbage disposal and pulls out the insert containing the recyclables. First bin number one, then bin number two. He dumps the contents of the bins into his bag as Santa would fill his sack with toys. This dude appears to have experience and has apparently been here before. Around the back of the building he goes to retrieve the contents of bin number three.

“Sometimes even to live is an act of courage.”  -Seneca

Stage left . . . in drives Mikayla. She hops in the vehicle with me and has just awoke from a lengthy ride. Tired, yet brimming with excitement over having seen her favorite music artist in the whole wide world.  I did my best to tune in to Mik's world however, I was distracted by the events going on beyond my immediate surroundings. Mikayla got herself buckled in and we head for home. Leaving Tim's I drive along the side street and past the other vehicle. I notice the trunk jimmied shut with a bungee cord. Apparently this wasn't the first stop. There were many bags loaded in the trunk.

My heart sank! Seriously, SANK!

My thoughts raced as I tried to understand this persons world . . .

Here I am picking my daughter up from a 'magical' event and a day which she has dubbed 'the best day of her life' . . . while someone else . . . . is working the night shift.

WOW!! Talk about a reality check!! Although I am usually snuggled in bed sleeping at home at this hour, I am very thankful for this experience as it served as a reminder to . . . COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS, I mean truly count your blessings!!!

Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is too precious, do not destroy it.
Life is life, fight for it.
— Mother Teresa

Tuesday, August 16, 2011


I received an email from a special friend and wanted to share:

The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being...  She said, 'Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?' I laughed and enthusiastically responded, 'Of course you may!' and she gave me a giant squeeze...

'Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?' I asked. She jokingly replied, 'I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids...' 'No seriously,' I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age. 'I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!' she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this 'time machine' as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.

Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor.

Frustrated and a little embarrassed, she leaned into the microphone and simply said, 'I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know.' As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, ' We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing.

There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day. You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!

There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets. The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets..'

She concluded her speech by courageously singing 'The Rose.' She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the year's end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those months ago.

One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.

When you finish reading this, please send this peaceful word of advice to your friends and family, they'll really enjoy it! These words have been passed along in loving memory of ROSE.

We make a Living by what we get. We make a Life by what we give.
God promises a safe landing, not a calm passage.
If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.
'Good friends are like stars.....You don't always see them, but you always know they're there.'

Love is like pi - natural, irrational, and VERY important.~ Lisa Hoffman

Receiving this email was a definite reminder that good friends are like stars . . . you don't always see them, but you always know they're there!  Thanks G!

Rose is correct about the words of this song.  Learn them and live them!  I recall years ago sitting in an meeting where they played the song and I wept, and wept.  I didn't understand it at the time but have come to understand the essence and importance of the lyrics.  I Believe . . . it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.

"The love we give away is the only love we keep." ~ELBERT HUBBARD

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Papa . . .

An update on my dad . . .

For those of you who don't know, my dad experienced a heart attack last Thursday afternoon.  He had lower chest pain and decided he should get it checked out.  Surprisingly (well probably not a surprise to anyone who knows his stubborn, I mean independent nature), he drove himself to the hospital.  He said he was quite surprised how quickly the Hospital staff began working on him, slapping stickies on, tossing meds in, and attaching monitors.   A blood test later that evening revealed that he has suffered a minor heart attack.  He remained in the hospital under observation for what seemed like an eternity.

By Monday the doctor had booked him in for an angiogram.  He was given a one way ticket via the Hospital Chariot (a.k.a. Ambulance) to Edmonton.   Luckily enough, the angiogram revealed that there were no blockages and he was able to catch the same Chariot home.  He remained in the Hospital again under observation to ensure there were no complications from the angiogram procedure.  He called me this afternoon to advise that he had passed the doctors test and was headed home ~ clicking his heels!

Papa has the BIGGEST heart in the whole wide world and we are so happy that this past week has a happy ending.  Times like these, we are reminded of the importance of family, friends and our own priorities in life.

Welcome home Papa, welcome home!!

"Things don't go wrong and break your heart so you can become bitter and give up.  They happen to break down and build you up so you can be all that you were intended to be." ~ Charles Jones

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Happy Father's Day!

"Anyone can be a Father, but it takes someone special to be a Daddy". - Author Unknown

Dad's are known by many titles - there are dad's, step dad's, foster dad's, granddad's.  Dad's are hero's, the pillars of the family, known for the love they give and the values they teach.

Dad may teach you how to tie your shoes or how to ride a bike, spend countless hours assisting you in perfecting your science project, coach you to excel in sports, quiz you in preparation for your weekly spelling exam or math final, hold the oil pan for your first oil change, or walk his baby girl down the aisle . . . all the while inspiring his kids to dream more, learn more, do more and become more.  Dad's are true leaders, finding out who their children really are and inspiring them to become it.

Above all else Dad is a child's first hero and role model, which is a very important task.  I commend the great Dad's who take this role seriously and are dedicated to the empowerment and enrichment of their children's life's.  U ROCK!!

As quoted by John Wooden, I believe - The best thing a father can do for
his children is to love their mother.

Based on my own childhood and the dynamics in which I was raised, I have an enormous appreciation for the Dad's that didn't have to be.  The following song sums up Father's Day for me (click link to watch YouTube video)

Cheers to my Dad, Granddad's, and ALL the Dad's I know - Wishing you a wonderful day filled with magical moments, great laughs, new ties and fragrant soap-on-a-rope.

It is hard work to be a hero, but it is in your job description.
Parenthood is not for wimps!

Thursday, June 16, 2011

My 1000 mile journey . . .

They say the journey of 1,000 miles begins with one step. The past six years I’ve spent on an in-depth journey of self-discovery and personal development. I have a tendency to take things to the nth degree and this delve into my inner most thoughts, feelings, and behaviors has been no exception. I believe I’ve traveled those miles which six year ago seemed like an impossible feat! I’ve spent more than my fair share of time in unhealthy relationships and on my journey, I’ve experienced an upheaval of memories and emotions which were to say the least . . . gut wrenching, heart aching, and mind bending! I have read countless books on self development and spirituality, completed 12 step programs, partook in life coaching, assisted coaching life development programs, assisted with Challenge Day, and spent weeks at a time in retreat settings . . . . literally tearing myself apart bit by bit, learning about myself and in essence human behaviors, needs, and development. Through this experience I am pleased to have found my authentic self ~ that being an open, honest woman of integrity and am excited to live within my sacred truth.
Several years ago I worked with an amazing man who recommended the Choices program.  It took a bit (well, maybe a lot) of convincing and off I went for what became the 'most' influential point in my life.  I had the pleasure of sharing some time with this man of integrity over the last few days, which served as a pleasant reminder of the value of authenticity.  In the years we’ve known each other, each of us has endured many experiences and we are so lucky to be able to reconnect on the basis of openness, trust, and honesty.

I've had 'many' people ask me what I've done in terms of personal development or what I recommend.  Here in chronological order is a list of the Choices retreats I've attended:

Choices - March 2005
Givers I - May 2005
Givers II - July 2005

First Time Coaching - Choices - January 2006
Givers I - February 2006
Givers II - March 2006
me and S.E.  our peeps - B.D., J.N., M.S., T.D., T.M.

Relationship Seminar - Kelowna, BC - October 2006

Super Choices - Chase, BC - March 2007

Second Time Coaching - Choices - July 2007
Givers I - September 2007
Givers II - October 2007
me and K.C.  our peeps - A.A., D.F., J.B., J.T., S.G.

Super Givers - Chase, BC - October 2007

Third Time Coaching - Choices - July 2008
Givers I - September 2008
Givers II - October 2008
me and I.B.  our peeps - G.H., G.F., M.F., T.H., T.L.

Choices Teen Camp - Lake Isle, AB - August 2008

Below is a link to the Choices program which I HIGHLY recommend:

For me the Choices journey was heaven sent!  I am thankful for every lesson and value learned and my only regret . . . is that I didn’t attend sooner. 

I Believe . . . I am a courageous woman passionately making a difference in the world, challenging others to great heights, inspiring them to seek and embrace the best in themselves.

"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow. " — Mary Anne Radmacher

Thursday, June 2, 2011

Miracles . . .

"A miracle is a single parent who works two jobs to care for their kids and still helps them with their homework at night.  A miracle is a child donating all the money in their piggy bank to help victims of a hurricane.  That's where you will find the hand and face of God." - Cathie Linz

Have to say this quote made me blubber like a baby.  Despite the day to day difficulties and challenges my family faces, it's amazingly awesome living in a 'home' full of miracles! 

I believe that challenges and obstacles are part of life.  I wouldn't consider single parenting an obstacle although it has proven to be a challenge more often than not. I've found that by sharing your difficulties, you allow people who love you the opportunity to show you how much they care.  Beyond my children, the most precious gift I have as a mom, is a tremendous network of family and friends.  To my fellow single parents, I salute you. 

Thank Heaven for miracles!

Sunday, May 8, 2011

Happy Mother's Day!

What a delightful day!  Not only did I have the pleasure of celebrating being a mom to three fabulous kids, today I was reminded of the value of TRUE friendship.  I was ecstatic to receive many Mother's Day greetings.  Thank you my sweet and dearest friends.  You know who you are.  I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your kind and encouraging words today.

Hands down, parenting is the toughest job I've ever held and on the flip side, definitely the most rewarding.  Just when I think I've got a handle on my role as a mom, yepper, you guessed it, another phase in childhood or teenage years.  I consider those phases an opportunity!  An opportunity for me as a mom to grow and learn, thanks kids!  Parenting definitely leaves little to the imagination.  I often joke that I've developed multiple personalities with which to better relate to each child.  I believe . . . that the way a child feels loved is based on your ability to relate to and understand them (hence my extra personalities).

To my fabulous trio, whom I love to the stars and back . . . for all those funny and crazy little quirks (they think) I have, consider them a gift.  I remind you . . . Mirror, mirror on the wall - you are your mother after all.

A few of my favorite Mother's Day inspired quotes:

A suburban mother's role is to deliver children obstetrically once, and by car forever after. ~Peter De Vries

God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers. ~ Proverb

Mother - that was the bank where we deposited all our hurts and worries. ~T. DeWitt Talmage

Any mother could perform the jobs of several air traffic controllers with ease. ~Lisa Alther

Mothers hold their children's hands for a short while, but their hearts forever. ~Author Unknown

The phrase "working mother" is redundant. ~Jane Sellman

A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie. ~Tenneva Jordan

Cheers to my Mother, Grandmother's, and ALL the Mother's I know - what better reward than the gift of children and the ability to watch your heart walk around outside your body.


Thursday, April 7, 2011

Prayer Request for my Niece Brooklyn

Tuesday February 1st, 2011 my niece Brooklyn, age 12,  fell ill with apparent flu like symptoms; fever, fatigue, headache, and dizziness.  With the passing of each day, Brooklyn's health and overall well-being has deteriorated, disabling her from attending school, and fully enjoying day to day life.  Despite repetitive trips to the hospital, numerous appointments, treatments, and medication, the extent of her illness or injury has yet to be determined.  Brooklyn's parents are proactively in search of answers and a course of action for her recovery!

Brooklyn is a free spirited, energetic, young lady who radiates peace, and who's warmth and compassion is admired and presently missed by many.

In your own way, be it say a prayer, light a candle, send positive energy, make a phone call, or send a message, I ask that you please send healing wishes to Brooklyn and her family.

We LOVE you Brooklyn Dawn !
Photo taken:  December 24th, 2010


Friday, April 1, 2011

Points to Ponder

The most destructive habit............................................Worry
The greatest joy...................................................................Giving
The greatest loss...................................Loss of self-respect

The most satisfying work................................Helping others
The ugliest personality trait.................................Selfishness
The most endangered species...............Dedicated leaders

Our greatest natural resource...............................Our youth
The greatest "shot in the arm"....................Encouragement
The greatest problem to overcome.................................Fear

The most effective sleeping pill.....................Peace of mind
The most crippling failure disease............................Excuses
The most powerful force in life.........................................Love

The most dangerous pariah......................................A gossiper
The world's most incredible computer..................The brain
The worst thing to be without............................................Hope

The deadliest weapon................................................The tongue
The two most power-filled words................................"I Can"
The greatest asset..................................................................Faith

The most worthless emotion.......................................Self-pity
The most beautiful attire................................................SMILE!
The most prized possession........................................Integrity

The most powerful channel of communication.............Prayer
The most contagious spirit.........................................Enthusiasm

Monday, March 28, 2011

I BELIEVE! Words to live by . . .

A Birth Certificate shows that we were born.  A Death Certificate shows that  we died.  Pictures show that we lived!  Have a seat . . . relax . . . and  read this slowly.

I believe . . . that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other, and just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do love each other.

I believe . . . that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I believe . . . that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I believe . . . that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance.  Same goes for true love.

I believe . . . that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I believe . . . that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I believe . . . that you should always leave loved ones with loving words.  It may be the last time you see them.

I believe . . . that you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I believe . . . that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I believe . . . that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I believe . . . that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I believe . . .that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I believe . . . that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I believe . . . that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down, will be the ones to help you get back up.

I believe . . . that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I believe . . . that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I believe . . . that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I believe . . . that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I believe . . . that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I believe . . . that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret.  It could change your life forever.

I believe . . . that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I believe . . . that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I believe . . . that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you - you will find the strength to help.

I believe . . . that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I believe . . . that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

I believe . . . that you should send this to all of the people that you believe in.  I just did.

The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Here are 26 quick tips for living an inspired life.

Ask for what you want. Be who you say you are. Care about others. Dare to live your dreams. Ease through the day. Find the best fit. Give to another. Hug a friend. Inspire someone to greatness. Jump over a boundary. Kick a bad habit. Leap across a fear. Mention something uplifting. Never say never. Open your mind and heart. Pursue your innermost passions. Quit complaining. Restore your smile. Set your sights high. Trust yourself. Use all the day. Value everything. Wait until it feels right. Xpress yourself. Yank weeds from your mental garden. Zoom into the now.

Wishing you an inspired day filled with love and laughter!

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

It's Independence Day!

In my rear view mirror, my life is getting clearer . . .

I spend a great deal of time learning about life, thoughts, feelings, emotions, and actions - focusing on relationships with myself and others, dreams, and desires.  I LOVE people and take great pride in learning about them on a deeper level.  I am NOT a fan of superficial relationships and devote myself to learning about the depths of people and understanding what makes them 'tick'.  The most important person you'll ever get to know is yourself.

As I watched Oprah yesterday, twins Kellie and Kathie revealed their story of being raped by their father and brothers, chills ran down my spine.  What a horrific reality for these young girls.  The reality for these girls or what their family came to know as 'normalcy' frightens me!

I watch people work so hard to maintain the 'status quo' of their life and their relationships and often wonder, WHY?  Status quo is defined as:  the way things currently are; normal conditions.  I challenge you to take a look at your 'normal' and determine if how you function on a daily basis is truly working for you and the people around you.  So often I witness people loose themselves or those they care about, by sacrificing themselves, their spirit, their minds, their beliefs, minimizing their feelings and/or their thoughts all to maintain the 'status quo'.  I experience this as a tremendous loss.  Why?

Sincerely take a look at your relationships; with yourself, family, friends . . . . are you functioning in a positive manner that serves those involved??  Are your relationships functional or preceded by the letters DYS??  Dysfunction comes in many shapes and sizes.  Many labels to define it.  I believe . . . dysfunction - is anything that takes away from who you are or who you have the potential to become.

Sadly, I've experienced both inside and out, more than my fair share of dysfunctional relationships.  Relationships that required sacrificing ones self to maintain the 'status quo'.  What I've come to realize is that NO amount of 'the way things are' is worth sacrificing yourself, your dreams nor your desires.  The BIG ole world can be a bully some days - kind of a dog eat dog sceanario!  It frightens me to see greatness sacrificed due to  fear.  Personally I believe . . . its time to make some noise, take a stand, make a difference, ruffle some feathers, change the dance!  I challenge you to stand up for something you believe in OR make a change to something that is not working for you - in essence change the dance.

Speaking of dance . . . I love music and find these lyrics speak to my heart.  Today - It's Independence Day!  (Click below to listen and view video - be sure to watch till the end - that's when the dance is changed)

Lost Highway by Bon Jovi on YouTube

P.S. . . ilovemorgan (she hacked my post and I love her for it)

Friday, February 4, 2011

Power Overload

The paradigm has been shifting!  WOW!  To further explain; if I were a string of Christmas lights, I've simply been plugged into a power source with too high of voltage!  Ever notice how at times in your life, things 'miraculously' fall into place.  The missing piece of the puzzle is found.  The light bulb comes on.  You experience an 'aha'.  Physically, mentally, and emotionally, I've been on 'power overload'.

A wonderful friend sent me a note in the mail years ago which read: 

If you can Forgive the person you were, Accept the person you are, and Believe in the person you will become, You are headed for JOY!

Now, I've done a pile of personal development and truly thought I had worked through the above phrases and was headed for JOY!  Turns out . . . some more layers of the onion to be peeled.  It's been said that people come into your life for a season, a reason, or a lifetime.  Whatever the purpose, I am truly grateful to be surrounded my wonderful people.

Think of a paradigm shift as a change from one way of thinking to another. It's a revolution, a transformation, a sort of  metamorphosis.  It just does not happen, but rather it is driven by agents of change. 

I attribute my recent shifts to some amazing clients and neighbours in my office building.  At times, we may spend more time talking than working (shhhhhh . . . don't tell the boss).  Believe me, the time spent has been extremely influential.  A special thanks to my recent 'agents of change'.

Alice - you make me laugh, literally.  I admire your sense of humour, fashion, stickers, and honesty.
Bruce - the new kid on the block . . . always willing to share his wisdom, and resources.
Cindy - you remind me the importance of pursuing your dreams, in ALL aspects of life!
Heather - when I grow up, I want to be just like you!  Your understanding and compassion are invaluable.
Jen - always good for a chuckle and an honest straight up dose of 'reality'.
Lan - you continually remind me the importance of being 'true' to yourself.
M.T. - you three are my 'lifetime' and truly rock my world.
*&%$#* (name changed to protect identity) - thank you for ensuring that I Believe . . . in ME!

“Reason, Season, Lifetime” - Aleksandra Lachut

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life,
whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Friday, January 14, 2011

Today's Excursion!

This is similar to the downtown traffic route today - OMG!

This is what I wished I had driven to work this morning - may not have been so concerned about the 'shape' of my bumpers by the end of the day!

Yep . . . that's me . . . just your regular down town trip to the bank!

Well, after my morning excursion, which included a mountain climbing expedition, a game of 'bumper' dodging, and an unexpected tour like a mouse in a maze . . . it is apparent that my town and I view the term 'Infrastructure' in different ways!

This morning as I head to work, I notice that the local authorities have decided that today is the day to clear the thick, thick, snow covered streets!  When I approach the core of downtown the snow removal has commenced and each street is graced with a mountainous berm of ice and snow.  Now this may sound like a pretty sight but believe me there was nothing pretty about it!  I watched people walk, climb, crawl, and fall over the berms.  Vehicles were parked like fallen objects amongst the street and I've never witnessed so many near misses in one day.  Today I was greatly thankful for four wheel drives, a valid insurance policy, warm winter boots, and a back door pass to my office building - so I could avoid the street scene!

I spent the day at work listening to back up alarms and the constant scrap and grind of metal upon frozen ice, snow, and pavememt, at least I've told myself thats what the sounds were!  I've yet to shake these visions or sounds from my head and the forecast suggest that there is more snow to fall - yikes!
I haven't seen this amount of snow in a looooooong time and believe me Mother Nature, I didn't miss it!  I often wonder why I continue to live in this neck of the woods?  I love water and definately prefer it over snow . . . be it rain, a hot tub, bath, pond, creek, lake, river, or ocean!  Anyway you look at water, you don't have to shovel it!

I snapped these pictures while out to the arena to pick up my favorite son this eve . . .

outside our local arena

street in front of our local arena

driving home

our cul de sac
These pictures attest to the severity of the 2011 Northern Alberta Winter! 

 Dear Mother Nature . . . . I remind you I prefer flip flops and a boat!

Monday, January 10, 2011

Sleeping @ Bus Stop 4!

Yesterday was the eve of my 29th birthday (again).  I was anxious to get some rest as I had a busy day of 'FUN' and 'celebrating' to do today!  As I headed off to bed to enjoy some hours of slumber, I am greeted by this sign posted upon my headboard . . .

This sign had been put up earlier yesterday by my seven year old daughter as we played school . . . and of course how do the children get to school if not for catch the bus!  I was amazed how this silly little sign affected my ability to visit dreamland, who would think three little words above your head would cause you to lapse so deep into thought instead of sleep!  I awoke this morning with much more gratitude than ever before, thankful that if I were to spend the night sleeping at a bus stop that I was accompanied by a bed, and blankets, and heat, and lights.  I am thankful to Mikayla for enlightening me to the imagination of this experience.

As I spent today having much fun in celebration of my birthday . . . my thoughts often wandered, as nobody knew . . . I had spent last night sleeping @ Bus Stop 4!  I am so thankful and grateful for the many, many greetings and blessing I received today.  My 'love cup' runneth over!  I enjoyed messages by phone, in person, text, bbm, and fb.  Also a wonderful lunch with 2 great friends, cookies made by my fantastic daughter Morgan, and supper provided by my very own Prince Tyson - what more could a girl ask for!

My reality today was filled with Peace, Love, and Joy.  Bottom line ____ it doesn't matter who you are, or where you're from - the most important thing we all have to share is what is in our heart!  I thank you all for filling my heart by sharing yours today.

I enjoyed such a fabulous day, that I can't wait to dose off to sleep under the sign again.  So . . . from Bus Stop 4 - I  bid you goodnight!

Saturday, January 8, 2011

It's My Party . . .

. . . and I'll cry if I want to!  As I prepare to celebrate my 29th birthday (yet again), and nestle into the comforts of 2011, I find myself feeling extremely peaceful!  I'm not sure if this peaceful state is attributed to my years of experience at being 29 or the gratefulness I feel for where I am today.

I look back over the decades of my life with much gratitude.  There are definitely some things in my journey that I wouldn't want to repeat nor do over.  Nonetheless, I consider myself thankful for the experiences as they have contributed to who and where I am today.

I opted to commence this year with New Year's Intentions over Resolutions.  My intentions are:

. . . creating value in ALL things.
. . . living and breathing MORE Peace, MORE Love, and MORE Joy into each and every day.
. . . LOL'ing, LMAO'ing or ROFLMAO'ing each and every day!

To further explain:
For me creating value is very important.  This allows me to turn what may be conceived as a 'negative' experience into something 'positive'.  For example; when stuck in traffic waiting for a train . . . I consider myself lucky to be granted time to visit with my children or listen to music.  When some yo-ho flips me the bird at a traffic intersection . . . I consider myself fortunate to have the ability to move my own thoughts and actions beyond anger or blame.  When I make a trip to the grocery store for oranges (for Santa, at the request of my 7 year old) and other goods on Christmas eve, then arrive home orange less . . . I trust that someone in need is enjoying our missing oranges.  I truly believe that life is less about what happens to us, and more about how we react to what happens to us.  We do have a choice!  Creating value allows me to stay focused on my desires - instead of my fears.

Peace, Love, and Joy are essentials in my life.  I focus my time and energy on things that bring more of these into my life . . . at home, at work, and at play!  I had a conversations with someone the other day that reminded me, our actions stem from one of two emotions, being LOVE or FEAR.  I believe love provides us more of what we want in life and fear . . . well, you get the idea!

As for LOL'ing, LMAO'ing, or ROFLMAO'ing . . . in all honesty, of my intentions this is the biggest stretch for me.  I've a tendency to do too much thinking and often get too focused on serious matters be it work, home life, a good book - yeah, those things that make you go hmmmmm, rather than LOL.  My promise to myself is to truly not take myself (and others) so seriously.

I've heard and read many conversations pertaining to peoples 'word' for the year.  After much consideration, I've determined my word for 2011 to be FUN!!  In addition to more laughter, less seriousness, I plan to have fun and step outside my own comfort zone!

I truly feel blessed and am very grateful for the many, many blessing in my life:
and my new found love . . . . . FUN!

Saturday, January 1, 2011

My Angels!

I believe in angels,
The kind that heaven sends.
I am surrounded by Angels,
But I call them friends.
- Aizabel Parinas -

I LOVE and ADORE children!  I find much inspiration in my interactions with them.  To follow are pictures of my absolute favorites (my own children and my nieces and nephews) and a little note about what they each bring to me.

absorbing or controlling possession of the mind by any interest or pursuit; lively interest: an occupation, activity, or pursuit in which such interest is shown:

full of joy, as a person or one's heart; glad; delighted. showing or expressing joy, as looks, actions, or speech.  causing or bringing joy, as an event, a sight, or news; delightful:

characterized by peace; free from war, strife, commotion, violence, or disorder: of, pertaining to, or characteristic of a state or time of peace.  peaceable; not argumentative, quarrelsome, or hostile: a peaceful disposition.

having beauty; having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc.; delighting the senses or mind

the state or quality of being kind:  kind behavior:  friendly feeling; liking.

stirred emotionally; agitated; stimulated to activity; brisk

kindly; amiable: a gentle manner.  not severe, rough, or violent; mild:  easily handled or managed; tractable:  a curious, rare, or novel thing.  curious, or interesting quality.

the principle of conscious life; the vital principle in humans, animating the body or mediating between body and soul.

effusively and almost uninhibitedly enthusiastic; lavishly abundant: abounding in vitality; extremely joyful and vigorous.

the desire to learn or know about anything; inquisitiveness.

the quality or state of being wise; knowledge of what is true or right coupled with just judgment as to action; sagacity, discernment, or insight.